So much of our lives are spent reaching, grasping, striving, trying.
- You try to get more clients
- You strive to grow your business
- You reach for ways of making more money
But all the striving, reaching, and efforting isn’t really doing anything for you, is it?
Then you add the law of attraction to the mix and you think, “Perfect! Now I can visualize and get everything I want.”
And then you fail epically.
- More clients don’t come
- The business doesn’t grow
- You don’t get anymore money
Or maybe you get some small results, but they come at such an energetic cost that you’re left exhausted and burned out.
What gives? Are you just not meant to get the results you desire?
Of course you are. The issue isn’t with the desire, it’s with the execution.
You’re trying too hard.
The law of attraction is not a synonym for visualizing, or affirming, or thinking really hard about what you want.
The LOA states that you will get whatever it is you are holding predominantly.
And so if you are trying really hard to get the things you want, you are predominantly holding “trying really hard”.
If you’re putting in tons of work to grow your business, you’re predominantly holding “working really hard”.
And so the law of attraction brings you more striving, more hard work, more effort.
It’s a vicious cycle that ends in frustration.
Here’s what you must fundamentally understand:
- Striving is not the same thing as obtaining
- Trying is not the same thing as doing
- Seeking is not the same thing as finding
- Wanting is not the same thing as having
You can try as hard as you’d like to get the things you want, but that sense of seeking for, of striving after, will only result in more of the same.
If you chase after what you want, you’ll always chase after it — because in the vibration of chasing, there is no hint of actually attaining it.
So what’s the solution then? This seems like a cruel catch-22. If you try to reach for what you want, you’ll always be stuck reaching.
The answer is to let it come to you.
Instead of seeking for it, be the finding of it.
Instead of trying really hard to get what you want, be the having of it.
The Tao Te Ching already spoke of this 2,500 years ago:
and everything will fall into place. (ch. 3)
Rushing into action, you fail.
Trying to grasp things, you lose them.
Forcing a project to completion, you ruin what was almost ripe. (ch. 64)
End the chase. Decide that you will allow your desires to come to you. Be the having of what you want.
I know that might sound monumentally impractical, but I’ve never been disappointed when practicing this for myself.
Stop putting so much faith in your action and your effort, and put faith instead in your alignment.
Instead of chasing after what you want, allow yourself to stand still, and watch as reality aligns itself around you.
I put in several hours of effort a day, everyday for years trying to get all this stuff to work and I got nothing out of it. The advice of giving up and not bothering is quite relieving. I never know if not fighting your beliefs causes them to go away (at least one has left me so far in the past week) or you’re still supposed to attain some magic mental posture of believing you already have something, even though I’ve proven that to be nigh impossible.
No no no no, don’t put in hours and hours of effort. That is counterproductive and will likely just result in you strengthening the thing you don’t want, which it sounds like has been happening.
The LOA is all about effortlessness. It’s the path of wu-wei (non-doing), of acceptance and allowing.
Being in a state of belief in what you want would be great. But it sounds like that’s not attainable from where you are, and it’s not absolutely necessary. Just lessen the resistance against where you are and be open to things changing, and you’ll start to see change.
You might enjoy our Facebook group where we discuss the LOA in much greater depth. https://www.facebook.com/groups/evolvingmoneyconsciousness